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what I wore : creature of habit

Thursday, March 12, 2015

I'm a creature of habit, in every sense. My whole life my breakfast has been donuts and chocolate milk. I'm always at least fifteen minutes early (a habit I picked up from my mom who clearly got it from my grandpa). If I could I would probably always pick the same outfit to wear everyday. I've been getting the same haircut for nearly ten years. I like everything a certain way and when it's not that way I get all frazzled. I'm learning to roll with the punches a bit more but it's hard to break these habits that are hardwired in my brain.
Monday morning as I was editing photos from the day previous I realized I REALLY needed a haircut. My hairdresser, that I had been going to since I was a teenager, is over an hour away and that's honestly just way to far to go when I'm sure Cleveland is full of fully capable people. I took a deep breath, picked up the phone, and made an appointment for an hour later.

I arrived early, of course, and sat down to search for a photo of how I wanted my hair cut. There was a photo from early last summer where my hair just looked perfect, I thought it would be a great example of what I wanted. When I showed my hairdresser the photo her face told me everything before she even opened her mouth. "How long have you been getting that hair cut?" "Around ten years", I sheepishly mumbled. "That's so outdated, we have to do something else." I wanted to run. I felt so stupid. But what could I do? I felt stuck so I continued to sink into my chair as she ranted about how outdated and not in style my old haircut was. What she suggested didn't sound all that bad so I broke my ten year same haircut run. It doesn't feel that much different than what I usually get. I'm still a little freaked out about how short it is but I think all haircuts need a week or so to stop looking weird and new so I'll consider it a success.
Since it was such a nice day, and I had just gotten a brand new hair cut I thought the perfect way to celebrate both those things would be to go take outfit photos. The beach sounded like the perfect spot. I parked, walked through the snow a bit when I realized since there was no one else there I could easily shoot on this little hill that has a neat view of the city without feeling crazy. I set up and started shooting. Instantly I was frustrated, it was SO bright outside I couldn't see my screen to review what I was shooting. It's not such a big deal when I'm actually behind the camera but on the tripod and with a remote I like to double check I'm getting good shots that are in focus. It's too easy for me to take bad outfit photos by myself so I decided to call it a day and head home.

I dumped all the photos I had taken throughout the day on my computer, and quickly went through them. There were so many cute ones! Alas I hadn't taken any detail shots or anything so I couldn't blog about it. It doesn't fit my outfit post format. Then it hit me, that format is just another silly habit of mine. There are no rules, only ones I make up. Tucking these photos away in a folder just because there aren't more of them is silly. I want these photos on the blog because it was a good day. I did a bunch of small things that were out of my comfort zone and that's worth celebrating to me.
details
sunglasses - Target
dress- Modcloth 
(a few years back but they have tons of b+w striped dresses!)
camera bag - Jo Totes

So here's to mixing it up once in a while - getting a haircut that isn't the same one you've been getting for way too long, even if it is really awesome, and posting outfit photos even if I feel like there aren't enough photos because y'all know dang well I'll be wearing this dress again a million more times anyway.
xoxo

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  1. I seem to always have a panic day after I get my hair cut. "Is it too short??" or "Why did I dooo that?!?!"

    Geez.

    But it can be great to try something different for a change. Plus it feels fantastic to get rid of all your bad ends. Win, win!

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    1. Oh yeah, same! It's been two days and now that I've figured out how to style it, I LOVE IT. I definitely feels great to get rid of all the bad stuff, and plus now my hair is so much fluffier.

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  2. I always have the hardest time doing any kind of tripod shots -- I feel like I can only get my camera to focus on me like 1 time out of 10. I also don't use a remote, though... maybe I need to get one! I don't do outfit photos but when I was getting into working out I wanted to do progress pics of my body and needed full body photos from multiple angles and OMG it was so frustrating.

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    1. Ohhh! Definitely get a remote! It will change everything.

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  3. I'm always nervous to go and get my haircut. For that reason I've put off getting a haircut for over 3 years-that's crazy right?! My poor hair. I'll get around to it eventually haha! Your cut looks adorable and the photos are super cute :)

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    1. Hah! I couldn't imagine not getting my hair cut for three years. But then again I'm not a long hair person. I always want long hair and then I realize it just doesn't work for me.

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  4. I think your haircut looks great, but holy moly, that hairdresser sounds awful!! Never go to a hairdresser that makes you feel bad about your ~hair choices~. I work at a salon (not as a stylist) and it's completely changed the way I think about hair stylists! There are ones out there that actually talk to you about what you want, not talk at you and make you feel bad.

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    1. Thanks!

      Oh, believe me, I won't be going back to her. Like, I get it, if you think the haircut is out of date (!?) or whatever then suggest what you think would work better for what I'm looking for instead of just making me feel like a huge dummy for wanting it.

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  5. you are beautiful. doesn't matter how you cut your hair, your beauty will still be there.
    i am really sad that that stylist was so pushy about how you wear your hair. YOU have to be seen in mirrors and in the eyes of others, she doesn't. YOU have to be comfortable with your appearance, she doesn't. her saying "we" must do anything is wrong, "we" only had to do what *you* wanted to do. a huge part of me wishes you would have walked out or told her that it is your head and request that if she is unable to cut your hair the way you want that she should simply not be the hair dresser for you. problem with that is that you would be doing what *i* wanted and not what you wanted.
    i love stretching boundaries, but in my opinion, that hairdresser was a bully.

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    1. Aw, thank you so much! <3

      I definitely agree she went about it the wrong way. I wanted to walk out so bad but I would have felt rude.

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  6. Ah haircuts, I don't like haircuts. But, yours looks nice! I can hardly tell a difference.

    We are kindred spirits when it comes to habits...doing something out of the norm can be stressful for me. Good for you for allowing life's ebb + flow to do what it does!

    xoxo

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  7. I've changed my hairstyle but I swear that's it! I still wear the same jeans, same t-shirts etc. I'm 25 and I want this to be the year of "firsts" I've already chalked up a few and it's harder than I thought to break habits I've had all my life! But it feels totally liberating! Go you for doing new things and taking steps outside your comfort zone!!

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  8. Don't worry about your hair too much because hair grows, but that was pretty rude of the hairdresser. I probably wouldn't go back because of that. Not to mention there are probably 20 ways she could have asked you the same question in a much nicer way

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    1. Oh totally! I wouldn't have minded if she suggested it nicely.

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  9. that new haircut looks so good on you! you for trying new things :)

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  10. Thats so fun and thrilling that you decided to cut your hair differently! I recently did the same, but my mom cut mine. So it was a total thrill for both of us haha. I find I push myself to do things i'm not used to doing or am quite nervous to do just because they help me grow and know for sure what I do or don't like. (p.s your hair looks great!)

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    1. Hehe! I wish my mom could cut my hair. I cut hers!

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  11. Excellent post. I believe that sooner or later have to leave the comfort zone. Otherwise very boring live. I change the color and length of hair every six months. There was also a redhead and a brunette and a blonde.
    I love your blog.

    http://goodbyesophie.blogspot.com/

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    1. Exactly. This past year I've doing my very best to push myself out of my comfort zone as often as possible.

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  12. I get the same way about structure, and those silly rules we make up in our heads -- as if other people will be mad if we don't include that "sub-section" in our blog posts. I adore your new haircut, and can't wait to see it in more photo shoots. Congrats on conquering the stylist's chair--and her feedback! Yikes!

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  13. I love how you mix ultra feminine dresses with "army" chic coats, and boots. It has definitely inspired me to play around more with my wardrobe. I used to think that if I had to kind of commit to one or the other, or not mix styles, but after I saw how well you've rocked I've been doing it a lot more myself!
    Also meanest hairdresser ever! It's a good thing that the cut turned out cute so you could think of it positively in the end!

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    1. That's so great to hear! I love mixing styles, so glad you've been enjoying it yourself. :)

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  14. That hairstylist sounds like a nightmare! All that matters is that you're happy with your cut! (Which, outdated? How so? And your new cut looks like a cute shorter version of your usual!)
    I am also a creature of habit and had been going to the same hairstylist for 10+ years, even after we moved 2 hours away! I recently found someone a heck of a lot closer though and I absolutely love her! Sometimes change is a great thing. In fact, most of the time change is a great thing :-) You've been embracing change for the last year or so now - good for you!

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    1. Hah, yeah, Jeff called it "your old hair version 2.0". It's hardly different but somehow it is looking a lot cuter now.

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  15. Oh my gosh, Kaylah. It is such a relief to hear that you have some of these things going on in your brain, too. I often think I am the only one! "There are no rules, only ones I make up" -- this is something I realized I've been doing for my entire life, and I only realized it around a year ago. Since then I've been trying SO hard to be mindful and to remind myself that that cage I've built for myself isn't actually there. It's not easy, but it makes me feel better to know I am not alone. :P

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    1. "that cage I've built for myself isn't actually there"
      Yesss! I'm feeling ya!

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    2. Hooray! Here's to breaking free :)

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  16. The cut turned out super cute, but yeah I would skip over anyone that doesn't know how to nicely suggest trying something a little different (whether it be hairstylist, makeup artist, waiter, whatever!).

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    1. Okay, here's my hang up now - a few days later and I'm loving my haircut more than any hair ever. She did an awesome job but was really tacky about it.

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  17. You are so incredibly brave! I also have to admit, I'm both a fan of your haircut (poo poo to the hairdresser's attitude) and the little outfit post format change. Great post Kaylah!

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  18. Love the outfit, know exactly the feeling with the haircut thing, and you are an inspiration to those of us who LOVE our routines!

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